We all want to feel a part of something,
merge with something or someone,
a beloved.....Nature....our idea of God....a group......an activity......music or...
our hero.
  
The 'thing or 'one' that we want to merge with is a reflection of the very true self that we are, as we are told we are all made in the image of God.

But to experience this first hand is to 'know' God, or to become one with God.

If you don’t like the word God then substitute 'Nature' 'Higher Self or Intelligent matter or whatever you like because it doesn’t really make any difference.

It’s the glue that holds it all together,

it is the self effulgent light energy that comprises everything you are and experience in your everyday life.
 
That self is far more beautiful and worthy of our devotion than any other thing, the self includes that thing anyway.

Putting that self first means that we feel secure and nourished
and therefore have more to share with others
and kindness and flowing-ness becomes our way of doing things naturally

The seemingly scary thing we call Death is just the soul and personality passing from this solid-seeming illusion we call Reality, to another more refined illusion or after-life, sometimes mistakenly called Heaven. Although the after-life is a pretty great place if your conscience isn’t too burdened. A bit of a holiday camp really! Real Heaven is a state of consciousness, not a place. It is absolutely possible therefore to also experience heaven here on Earth, via simple meditation, formally seated and meditation in action.

In truth your loved one has NOT really disappeared, but only to your physical eyes. They still are there, but existing in a new and more perfect body, that looks pretty much like the one they had on earth, without the obvious defects. A finer and young version, although in dreams they may appear still old, that is just to reassure you that it is them.

Don’t worry if it takes a little while to be able to experience contact from your loved one, sometimes the devastating storms of grief and any unresolved issues may act as a cloud around you, and make it difficult for them to show you they are there. Just be patient with yourself.

 In dreams you can still meet them, and if you allow yourself to, you can sense their presence. This may take a little practice, but is possible for anyone, no matter if they are ‘that way inclined’ or not.

Wailing and crying out, are a natural reaction to such a great loss, if you don’t do that, you are going to be in deep trouble psychologically and it could affect your health.

It is completely healthy and correct to express grief, the process which usually contains a period of healthy anger, takes on average 18 months to come through the worst of the fog. Bursting into tears for the silliest of reasons is completely normal.

Seeing your loved one laid out in the funeral parlour if possible REALLY helps, as I found out when my husband died two years ago.

Just seeing the shell of their body all peaceful, their familiar face in repose and their hands folded on their chest is a moving experience. And it can help the grief process, especially if you saw them while they were dying or immediately after, when their appearance may have been traumatic for you.

It helps you to say goodbye to the physical (although I stress you are NOT saying goodbye actually to THEM, but there old ‘overcoat’ of their physical vehicle.)

When you love someone....how can there possibly be real separation, it is illusory separation. For in truly loving another being, in an unselfish way, you become One with their soul, or higher self.

Mortal love is a very pale but lovely reflection of the Love we can feel for the power that created us.

And to the degree that we love the Higher Power, Creator, God, Higher Self, Self-Effulgent Light or whatever you like to call it......to that degree we merge with that perfect Source in Bliss, Peace and Fulfilment, while still going about our daily business, and at the moment of our passing from this world.

The best way we can honour our loved one is to decide to live our life as fully and as joyfully as we possibly can from now on.

Constantly making that simple decision to be ‘in the moment’ where love reigns supreme and there is no separation.
Love and Blessings from
Nina,Ayesha and Slow Bull

Earth is my Heaven, I am in paradise, beauty and love is all around me. Body is painful and weak, but I am so grateful to have it. Devotion to my Creator is the greatest feeling I can feel when working, resting or playing. Heaven is here right now with me, in my heart and all around me. I rest happily in the arms of my Beloved. In Light and Love Nina xxx