When we allow ourselves to feel love then the defence walls of fear and anger that arise from pain dissolve and we become free.
We think our walls protect us, until we realise that all they do is separate us. Deep down we know that our own joys and pains deeply effect everyone else around us and therefore the whole world, just as our own families pain and joy has effected us.
We are empowered and are able to change absolutely everything for the better by enjoying each breath.
We may individually know various things but we know nothing very much and what we think is as changeable as the next person.
At our core we are not different, what we all need is simple and essentially the same.
The protective mask we all have, may seem impenetrable and scary, but it hides a heart that only wants to give and receive.
Lets not look at each others surface that seems so different but connect with each other at our centre which is loving.
Fixing our attention firmly on our loving breath for as many breaths as we can each day is the simple key to the happiness we want. The mind relaxes and lets go of fear and anxiety.
All this fear has made our lives so difficult, it's time to let go of it and start to become our simple loving selves again. Love melts fear and heals the pain.
Thoughts increase the pain, even positive thoughts are only a signpost. When we receive the loving feeling behind our breath, pain begins to melt away.
We all want to feel a part of something,
merge with something or someone,
a beloved.....Nature....our idea of God....a group......an activity......music or...
The 'thing or 'one' that we want to merge with is a reflection of the very true self that we are, as we are told we are all made in the image of God.
But to experience this first hand is to 'know' God, or to become one with God.
If you don’t like the word God then substitute 'Nature' 'Higher Self or Intelligent matter or whatever you like because it doesn’t really make any difference.
It’s the glue that holds it all together,
it is the self effulgent light energy that comprises everything you are and experience in your everyday life.
That self is far more beautiful and worthy of our devotion than any other thing, the self includes that thing anyway.
Putting that self first means that we feel secure and nourished
and therefore have more to share with others
and kindness and flowing-ness becomes our way of doing things naturally
The seemingly scary thing we call Death is just the soul and personality passing from this solid-seeming illusion we call Reality, to another more refined illusion or after-life, sometimes mistakenly called Heaven. Although the after-life is a pretty great place if your conscience isn’t too burdened. A bit of a holiday camp really! Real Heaven is a state of consciousness, not a place. It is absolutely possible therefore to also experience heaven here on Earth, via simple meditation, formally seated and meditation in action.
In truth your loved one has NOT really disappeared, but only to your physical eyes. They still are there, but existing in a new and more perfect body, that looks pretty much like the one they had on earth, without the obvious defects. A finer and young version, although in dreams they may appear still old, that is just to reassure you that it is them.
Don’t worry if it takes a little while to be able to experience contact from your loved one, sometimes the devastating storms of grief and any unresolved issues may act as a cloud around you, and make it difficult for them to show you they are there. Just be patient with yourself.
In dreams you can still meet them, and if you allow yourself to, you can sense their presence. This may take a little practice, but is possible for anyone, no matter if they are ‘that way inclined’ or not.
Wailing and crying out, are a natural reaction to such a great loss, if you don’t do that, you are going to be in deep trouble psychologically and it could affect your health.
It is completely healthy and correct to express grief, the process which usually contains a period of healthy anger, takes on average 18 months to come through the worst of the fog. Bursting into tears for the silliest of reasons is completely normal.
Seeing your loved one laid out in the funeral parlour if possible REALLY helps, as I found out when my husband died two years ago.
Just seeing the shell of their body all peaceful, their familiar face in repose and their hands folded on their chest is a moving experience. And it can help the grief process, especially if you saw them while they were dying or immediately after, when their appearance may have been traumatic for you.
It helps you to say goodbye to the physical (although I stress you are NOT saying goodbye actually to THEM, but there old ‘overcoat’ of their physical vehicle.)
When you love someone....how can there possibly be real separation, it is illusory separation. For in truly loving another being, in an unselfish way, you become One with their soul, or higher self.
Mortal love is a very pale but lovely reflection of the Love we can feel for the power that created us.
And to the degree that we love the Higher Power, Creator, God, Higher Self, Self-Effulgent Light or whatever you like to call it......to that degree we merge with that perfect Source in Bliss, Peace and Fulfilment, while still going about our daily business, and at the moment of our passing from this world.
The best way we can honour our loved one is to decide to live our life as fully and as joyfully as we possibly can from now on.
Constantly making that simple decision to be ‘in the moment’ where love reigns supreme and there is no separation.
Love and Blessings from
Nina,Ayesha and Slow Bull
Earth is my Heaven, I am in paradise, beauty and love is all around me. Body is painful and weak, but I am so grateful to have it. Devotion to my Creator is the greatest feeling I can feel when working, resting or playing. Heaven is here right now with me, in my heart and all around me. I rest happily in the arms of my Beloved. In Light and Love Nina xxx
Actually it's plural, AUTHORS or a 'Bag of Mixed' as Max Wall the old music hall commedian would say ! To clarify this I am acting as a scribe for various angels and wise ones. If it sometimes sounds wise I cannot claim any credit, if it upsets you, I probably cannot claim credit for that either. Although if you feel upset by anything that is said then I will be happy to talk with you about it.