Angel Cottage Recipe for Loneliness and Heartbreak
💞💞💞so many beautiful women and men alone...... Why???? I puzzled over this sadness for a long time and what I eventually realised was.... It's all down to fear!!! With a dash of self- pity and low self esteem. Men are usually more scared than women, of heartbreak, because of this they can become cool, hard, unapproachable or even bitter. Even though they also want to be loved. Everybody is pretending not to care, that they are happy to be alone, ( maybe they are!) why are we pretending it's normal to be lonely. You are lonely because you have chosen this condition rather than take a risk. Of course you may disagree with this initially but if you analyse it, you will find it's probably a fear. Also in our modern society we move about a lot and don't live close to our kin and lifetime friends. The miracle is discovering that everyone can be our friend and spiritually at least our kin. Let's not be frightened to love.
Points to remember:-
a) If you love someone, that love is YOUR love, it does not belong to them. They just sparked it!! It's your treasure-trove, your capacity to love, they can't take that away from you, whether they die or leave. It's yours to shine wherever you wish or on whomever you wish.
b) With each one you love, your beautiful capacity to love and be a wonderful partner, gets more and more honed, richer and sweeter. Don't be a doormat, take Centaury flower remedy if that's your problem. Take two whole bottles as instructed until finished.
c) There is no unseen hand stopping you getting what you need, other than your own
A few years ago a rather volcanic man I adored and who is the man I have loved more than any of my many 'husbands' left me dramatically in a temper for reasons know only to himself. Disaster, you think! But soon I am feeling great because I have my tried and tested Angel Cottage Heartbreak Recipe! Then just when he is making sneaky drop-calls to me, (his way of letting me know he's coming back), he dies of a heart attack. How do I rise above this double sorrow. The same way I always do, sit a meditate every day, sorrow that could have destroyed me, is soothed and softened. What a gift
The recipe I have used so successfully when all of my many wonderful 'husbands' die or leave is :-
1) Meditate using simple techniques ( called Knowledge, available from Prem Rawat at www.wopg.org) to turn your senses within. Systematically, for as many hours as you can . This will keep you anchored safely to the rock of your heart from where the unlimited spring of love and fulfilment flows endlessly. While practicing you may occasionally cry profusely, and release accumulated pain, this pain will gently dissolve in all that Love and Light, that is the real true you. It can also, be called the Great Comforter.
2) Avoid The obvious 'comfort ' foods and alcohol that make you fat and unhealthy and unsexy. Instead make yourself at least 4 raw smoothies s day, including at least one with spirilina in. And drink 2.5 litres filtered or distilled water a day.
3) Systematically say "I forgive you, I love you, I release you" to their picture, either literally or in your mind, until you feel it's worked. Might as well do that with any other person that you needs to, as well. Use your minds eye to picture them happy and fulfilled. Don't be disheartened if you imagine doing them harm instead, just persevere until your higher nature wins through. Which it will do, don't worry. This heals you and completes the relationship, brings it to a karmic and rounded completion.
4) Face and deal with your unconscious fear, it's based on our ego- based personality, which as we know from Bhuddist scripture and other spiritual traditions, is the root of all our problems.
5)Take up partner dancing, gym, walking, craft, community gardening, choral singing, social clubs, join dating sites, engage with friends. Make new ones! Leave fear far behind you. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks, it's not their life, it's yours. fear stops you living happily and fully.
6) If you believe that there is a Divine Creative Power that created you, do you really think it considers you so wicked and disgusting, ugly, inconsequential, screwed-up, useless and boring that you are not allowed to have a mate! Have you seen some of those creatures under the sea that HAVE affection and a mate!!!???
Come on now, get out their and don't be scared, now you have your faithful :- Angel Cottage Heatbreak Recipe.
And when you or a lover will have to part, one way or the other, which they naturally have to do one day anyway! That's life! Nothing material is forever, only love is eternal, you will still have all that amazing capacity to love stored in the treasure trove of your heart.
Hope you find this recipe helpful.
Slowing time down by becoming minutely conscious of the flow of energy behind our breath creates loving communication and allows us to fall in love with all beings and environments and our own true self.
When we allow ourselves to feel love then the defence walls of fear and anger that arise from pain dissolve and we become free.
We think our walls protect us, until we realise that all they do is separate us. Deep down we know that our own joys and pains deeply effect everyone else around us and therefore the whole world, just as our own families pain and joy has effected us.
We are empowered and are able to change absolutely everything for the better by enjoying each breath.
We may individually know various things but we know nothing very much and what we think is as changeable as the next person.
At our core we are not different, what we all need is simple and essentially the same.
The protective mask we all have, may seem impenetrable and scary, but it hides a heart that only wants to give and receive.
Lets not look at each others surface that seems so different but connect with each other at our centre which is loving.
Fixing our attention firmly on our loving breath for as many breaths as we can each day is the simple key to the happiness we want. The mind relaxes and lets go of fear and anxiety.
All this fear has made our lives so difficult, it's time to let go of it and start to become our simple loving selves again. Love melts fear and heals the pain.
Thoughts increase the pain, even positive thoughts are only a signpost. When we receive the loving feeling behind our breath, pain begins to melt away.
We all want to feel a part of something,
merge with something or someone,
a beloved.....Nature....our idea of God....a group......an activity......music or...
The 'thing or 'one' that we want to merge with is a reflection of the very true self that we are, as we are told we are all made in the image of God.
But to experience this first hand is to 'know' God, or to become one with God.
If you don’t like the word God then substitute 'Nature' 'Higher Self or Intelligent matter or whatever you like because it doesn’t really make any difference.
It’s the glue that holds it all together,
it is the self effulgent light energy that comprises everything you are and experience in your everyday life.
That self is far more beautiful and worthy of our devotion than any other thing, the self includes that thing anyway.
Putting that self first means that we feel secure and nourished
and therefore have more to share with others
and kindness and flowing-ness becomes our way of doing things naturally
The seemingly scary thing we call Death is just the soul and personality passing from this solid-seeming illusion we call Reality, to another more refined illusion or after-life, sometimes mistakenly called Heaven. Although the after-life is a pretty great place if your conscience isn’t too burdened. A bit of a holiday camp really! Real Heaven is a state of consciousness, not a place. It is absolutely possible therefore to also experience heaven here on Earth, via simple meditation, formally seated and meditation in action.
In truth your loved one has NOT really disappeared, but only to your physical eyes. They still are there, but existing in a new and more perfect body, that looks pretty much like the one they had on earth, without the obvious defects. A finer and young version, although in dreams they may appear still old, that is just to reassure you that it is them.
Don’t worry if it takes a little while to be able to experience contact from your loved one, sometimes the devastating storms of grief and any unresolved issues may act as a cloud around you, and make it difficult for them to show you they are there. Just be patient with yourself.
In dreams you can still meet them, and if you allow yourself to, you can sense their presence. This may take a little practice, but is possible for anyone, no matter if they are ‘that way inclined’ or not.
Wailing and crying out, are a natural reaction to such a great loss, if you don’t do that, you are going to be in deep trouble psychologically and it could affect your health.
It is completely healthy and correct to express grief, the process which usually contains a period of healthy anger, takes on average 18 months to come through the worst of the fog. Bursting into tears for the silliest of reasons is completely normal.
Seeing your loved one laid out in the funeral parlour if possible REALLY helps, as I found out when my husband died two years ago.
Just seeing the shell of their body all peaceful, their familiar face in repose and their hands folded on their chest is a moving experience. And it can help the grief process, especially if you saw them while they were dying or immediately after, when their appearance may have been traumatic for you.
It helps you to say goodbye to the physical (although I stress you are NOT saying goodbye actually to THEM, but there old ‘overcoat’ of their physical vehicle.)
When you love someone....how can there possibly be real separation, it is illusory separation. For in truly loving another being, in an unselfish way, you become One with their soul, or higher self.
Mortal love is a very pale but lovely reflection of the Love we can feel for the power that created us.
And to the degree that we love the Higher Power, Creator, God, Higher Self, Self-Effulgent Light or whatever you like to call it......to that degree we merge with that perfect Source in Bliss, Peace and Fulfilment, while still going about our daily business, and at the moment of our passing from this world.
The best way we can honour our loved one is to decide to live our life as fully and as joyfully as we possibly can from now on.
Constantly making that simple decision to be ‘in the moment’ where love reigns supreme and there is no separation.
Love and Blessings from
Nina,Ayesha and Slow Bull
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Earth is my Heaven, I am in paradise, beauty and love is all around me. Body is painful and weak, but I am so grateful to have it. Devotion to my Creator is the greatest feeling I can feel when working, resting or playing. Heaven is here right now with me, in my heart and all around me. I rest happily in the arms of my Beloved. In Light and Love Nina xxx
CONGRATULATIONS TO PARENTS
Hello dear ones....if you have children then something to consider is that, even if you think that it is so difficult bringing them up in the World as it is. Even if you think things are going drastically wrong and you are not doing a good enough job.
STOP and consider that actually you are bringing your children up in the Darkest Age in ALL history (the Kali Yuga as the Hindu’s call it ) so as far as the angels are concerned you are most likely doing GREAT.
Ok...so it does not seem that way, but if we could see the overview that the angels and spirit people see, then we would be only too aware of the dark forces that are swirling around our children. But the brave and sometimes desperate efforts of many social workers, probation officers, teachers and ESPECIALLY parents are despite appearances, are working. Their light spreads out around our children as a protective cloak of Light helping and strengthening them and protecting them from the dark hoards ( legendary but very real and pretty scary invisible entities) and also all the more obvious material dangers.
And so what ! if they swear a too much, don’t SEEM to care (they do really) and resort to the occasional spliff or drinking binge. Maybe it’s not what we hoped for our kids, but then did we seriously know what they were going to be faced with? But here it is an apparently ‘Godless’ age full of all sorts of confusion and chaos. economic disaster, ecological disaster, destruction of the family unit etc.
Nothing we could have done would have completely prepared them for this !!!!
But they are coping, developing new skills and coping strategies we never knew they would need...some of the more sensitive ones are having mini and sometimes major psychological problems and breakdowns, and most come out the other side so much stronger.
The dear ones that don’t make it go into the heavenly spirit realm (even if they take their own life!), are especially blessed and cared for by the Angels and their loving ancestors and the prayers of those left behind.
In fact the most POWERFUL force in the universe to combat the dark forces and the outer manifestations such as the drug barons etc is......and this is going to surprise you......the loving prayers of parents and grannies, grandpa’s, aunties and friends.
These ‘prayers’ may be uttered silently without any knowledge of spiritual matters, without any formality or embellishment. But if that thought is sincere and there is some element of trust in a Higher Power then the Angels will listen and they will make sure that your strength and sincerity combines with theirs and will become immediately effective. You may not see immeadiate results, but persevere and you will.
So do not be too hard on them, or yourselves...you are doing great, keep ‘trucking’ as you say.
So.... Grannies and Granpa’s....KNOW YOUR DIVINE POWER, AND USE IT, Light is more powerful than Darkness... in the end Darkness must evaporate, have no fear for your children.
Blessings, Love and Light
Ayesha, a humble servant of the Light
Well.....here goes I am almost ready to start blogging in ernest, but it is now late at night so I will start another time when the muse is upon me,...nina
Actually it's plural, AUTHORS or a 'Bag of Mixed' as Max Wall the old music hall commedian would say ! To clarify this I am acting as a scribe for various angels and wise ones. If it sometimes sounds wise I cannot claim any credit, if it upsets you, I probably cannot claim credit for that either. Although if you feel upset by anything that is said then I will be happy to talk with you about it.